Three Things to Avoid After a Breakup
Breaking up is a lousy process for both people in the relationship. Whether it was a short fling or a long-term relationship, there are several things that both men and women should avoid after a breakup. These three tips can help you maintain your dignity and begin your new quest for love.
#1: Don’t Cyber-Stalk Your Ex
This is perhaps many people’s guilty secret, but cyber-stalking your ex is a horrible idea. First, it gives you the illusion of still being a part of their life, when it’s time to move on. Also, you’re bound to over-analyze their posts and become upset when you see photos of them with new women or men. In a way, it can subconsciously make you begin to compare yourself with the person’s new significant other. What’s the point of putting yourself through the reminiscing of what should have and could have been? Focus on yourself instead. If you need to, unfollow your ex on social media platforms, or take a hiatus from social media altogether.
#2: Don’t Neglect Yourself
Even though you may feel unloved at the moment, it’s important to remember to love yourself. Eat healthy meals, and don’t escape your sadness through unhealthy outlets like binge drinking, smoking or using drugs. Instead, begin new, active hobbies like working out at a new gym or practicing yoga for the first time. You might even want to join that intermural soccer team that you’ve always thought about joining. And don’t be afraid to go spoil yourself with new clothes, haircuts or massages. You’ve been through a tough time and your body could use a little pick me up.
#3: Don’t Alienate Yourself
Everyone is different, some require more alone time than others. But if you’ve just gone through a break-up, it’s important that you don’t become a hermit (for too long). Connecting with family and friends is an important part of the healing process. Because, after all, humans are social creatures. Confide in people you love about how you feel so that they can help you cope and find new perspectives.
While we’ve covered three tips, we’re certain there are more. What keeps you going after a tough break up?